What did you expect?
They're there for you from the moment you are born. They protect you day in and day out. They try to do the best for you in hopes that you will succeed and survive in the future. The only instructions they have are the experiences that they have endured through their life. The common sense and beliefs that they hold are what reflect on you and mold you to the person that you are to become. They are the people that you look up to, or the people that inspire you to do all that you can in this world.
These are the people that we are to listen to and respect over all the rest in the world. But they too are human. But do they realize this? Do they realize that not only do we see and recognize their good examples, but also catch a glimpse of their imperfections. Do they know that when they try to hide their imperfections it makes us feel as if we are incapable of dealing with the fact that they are one of us. They are afraid to let down and be on our level. While they try to hold themselves on a pedestal, they are actually destroying the trust by pretending that everything is OK when it's not.
We are your kids. We would like to think that you have raised us in your best judgement. That you have given your all and that you will continue to give your all. We are not stupid. You have taught us that not everything works out the way we want it to and that things aren't always fair, but yet you don't listen to your own words. You pretend as if we don't know the truth. Through our lives we thought that our family would be untouchable, that we were one, and we learned this from you. Yet you are the ones who show us the exact opposite.
We are the ones that are struggling to keep the family bonds alive. It hurts to know that you love us more than anything in the world, yet we can't help you. We know that what happens is not our fault, but it hurts to know that we cannot fix it. You are our rock, and now you are breaking. Our glimpse of hope seeps through the cracks as you seek to live your life and not our life. While you pretend it will be OK because you are now embellishing your new found freedom, we are left wondering why. You want us to visit and pretend we are OK with the fact that our family rock has broken, but it's one of the hardest things for us to do.
We were taught to never give up. All things are possible. All your hard work will pay off. Yet you have given up. Is it not worth it? The fact that we are older does not make it easier, but makes it harder in the sense that we realize that you are not willing to make it work, that not all things are possible, and that you gave up. It might not be all that you thought it was going to be. You may have hurt each other, you may even hate each other from time to time. You may feel that there is more out there and that you want more.
But it is not about you. The moment you brought us into your life it it became about us. You vowed through sickness and health, better or worse, till death do you part. Did it not mean a thing? We know you have screw ups and the best thing to do is face them head on. Don't pretend they didn't happen... we know. We thought that because we were a family we would get through this. But it's because we are a family that this is happening. You chose to be here with this person and have us as bystanders. So do it.
If you are going to let go, don't expect us to hold on. Why should we give you all the dedication, love, and satisfaction if you can't do it for us? You say it is better this way... maybe for you. All we know is one and now it is none. Don't be surprised if we cut out short from our now so called family get togethers, remember, you let it go first. Don't be taken back if we don't feel up to dealing with our problems and working things out, we learned that from you. Don't be distruaght when we seek attention in other ways, you're not there to give it the way we need it. Don't gasp when we do something unexpected, what did you expect? And when you feel we're not who you thought we were, don't worry I guess you and dad weren't who we thought you were either. And just when you think we owe you... remember... all we asked of you was a family, one family, our family.
These are the people that we are to listen to and respect over all the rest in the world. But they too are human. But do they realize this? Do they realize that not only do we see and recognize their good examples, but also catch a glimpse of their imperfections. Do they know that when they try to hide their imperfections it makes us feel as if we are incapable of dealing with the fact that they are one of us. They are afraid to let down and be on our level. While they try to hold themselves on a pedestal, they are actually destroying the trust by pretending that everything is OK when it's not.
We are your kids. We would like to think that you have raised us in your best judgement. That you have given your all and that you will continue to give your all. We are not stupid. You have taught us that not everything works out the way we want it to and that things aren't always fair, but yet you don't listen to your own words. You pretend as if we don't know the truth. Through our lives we thought that our family would be untouchable, that we were one, and we learned this from you. Yet you are the ones who show us the exact opposite.
We are the ones that are struggling to keep the family bonds alive. It hurts to know that you love us more than anything in the world, yet we can't help you. We know that what happens is not our fault, but it hurts to know that we cannot fix it. You are our rock, and now you are breaking. Our glimpse of hope seeps through the cracks as you seek to live your life and not our life. While you pretend it will be OK because you are now embellishing your new found freedom, we are left wondering why. You want us to visit and pretend we are OK with the fact that our family rock has broken, but it's one of the hardest things for us to do.
We were taught to never give up. All things are possible. All your hard work will pay off. Yet you have given up. Is it not worth it? The fact that we are older does not make it easier, but makes it harder in the sense that we realize that you are not willing to make it work, that not all things are possible, and that you gave up. It might not be all that you thought it was going to be. You may have hurt each other, you may even hate each other from time to time. You may feel that there is more out there and that you want more.
But it is not about you. The moment you brought us into your life it it became about us. You vowed through sickness and health, better or worse, till death do you part. Did it not mean a thing? We know you have screw ups and the best thing to do is face them head on. Don't pretend they didn't happen... we know. We thought that because we were a family we would get through this. But it's because we are a family that this is happening. You chose to be here with this person and have us as bystanders. So do it.
If you are going to let go, don't expect us to hold on. Why should we give you all the dedication, love, and satisfaction if you can't do it for us? You say it is better this way... maybe for you. All we know is one and now it is none. Don't be surprised if we cut out short from our now so called family get togethers, remember, you let it go first. Don't be taken back if we don't feel up to dealing with our problems and working things out, we learned that from you. Don't be distruaght when we seek attention in other ways, you're not there to give it the way we need it. Don't gasp when we do something unexpected, what did you expect? And when you feel we're not who you thought we were, don't worry I guess you and dad weren't who we thought you were either. And just when you think we owe you... remember... all we asked of you was a family, one family, our family.
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